Loving Yourself Like A Five-Year Old

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Acceptance, Acts of Kindness, Alternative, Animals and Children, Blessings, Blind, Connect, Expansion, Guide Dog, Meaning of lIfe, Munch, Perfection, Service

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What does my Five-year old granddaughter love about herself?

“I love my hands as they help give things to people. They can also do sign language to people who cannot hear.

I love my eyes as they can help see things for people who cannot see, just like you Mam.

I love my ears as they can listen out to help people who are deaf.

I love my mouth as I can talk to people who need to chat”.

I have always known that she was a beautiful soul, but I never realized just how bright her light within was constantly alight until I asked her this simple question. This glimpse into the mind of an innocent five-year-old who has yet to query her worth in life, took me to a place that I wish we could all live. These ideas have not been forced into her mind in any way, they have just emerged from her authentic perception of what it is really like to live in a world  with others with needs that are sometimes greater than her own.

She was just nine months old when Munch my adorable Guide Dog came to live with us so she cannot remember a time where Munch was not a permanent fixture by my left-hand side on days out. She has always been my eyes. When I drop something, she picks it up without being asked.  She holds things close to my face so that I can get a better view of the blurry object and she mastered using my white cane as soon as she could walk, just because she felt like it. To her sight loss is no big thing, it just is part of her grandmother’s life.

Munch to her is not a Guide Dog, he is just family.  I was told once by her teacher when I picked her up from school, that they had asked that morning what the name of my dog was. She looked puzzled at them and asked what dog ? With Munch weighing six stone and his head measuring thirty-three inches from the floor clad in a bright yellow and white harness, she thought they were talking about some other dog.  She told them he was not a dog; he was just Munch.

When children grow up with disabilities and other differences around them, they can only see normality. They accept the whole of a person as they are and know no different. Children who grow up alongside difference see an expanded version of the limited world other’s live in. They learn that for every problem there are a multitude of different solutions and they learn to love unconditionally and never with condition. They are the teachers that speak with the wisdom that we never thought we would here.

When a five-year old talks of including those in society that are often left feeling excluded, they will never be alone. It is this type of child who accepts without effort or limit and sees beyond barriers that need never exist. Kindness can only come from a place that it organically exists if it is to be omnipresent in every situation in life. When we are choosing to be kind in life, we are choosing to live an enriched path that will never see us alone.

What do I love most about my granddaughter? Her pure existence and everything that it entails.

Why Fear Should Never Win

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Acceptance, Animal, Connect, Disability, Expansion, Fear, Full Circle, Guide Dog, Hidden Disability, Labradoodle, Life lessons, Unconditional Love

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If I had stayed in fear, I may never have a chance to kiss this gorgeous velvety nose.

Dogs were never really my thing. I never really ‘oohed and aahed’ over cute little puppies running around. This was partly because I could not really see them but also partly because I never really trusted them. I did not have full blown Cynophobia, but they were not my favourite animals to be honest. I was never bitten by a dog growing up or was scared in anyway by any, but I always had a healthy respect for the fact that they could turn if they felt threatened.

We had a cross Collie whilst growing up called Cindy who was with us for ten years until she passed when I was around fourteen. She was more human than dog so I kind of forgot that she belonged to the canine kind as she would come with my brothers, friends and I as we played Fox and Hounds and football. I was surprised that she was never scouted for a top team as she scored more goals than any of us put together. Cindy was one of us, other dogs were not.

I had a healthy respect for the ability of dogs to turn if they were threatened and therefore kept away from them.  This was one of the stumbling blocks that I was hanging onto when I decided to apply for a guide dog. The  main excuse I gave myself from applying for a guide dog was that maybe people I knew would question why I suddenly turned up with a guide dog when the majority of them never knew I had been registered as severely sight impaired (previously known as registered blind)  for a number of years. The other main reason was however that I was not sure if life with a dog was really for me.

What would happen if I did not learn to read the dog’s signs of distress or if they were too hot and frustrated? What if I could not pick up on the cues that they needed something that I did not know about? What if the dog did not like me? What if the dog did not like coming into schools with me for me to carry out my job? The negative ‘what if’s’ snowballed more than the positive ‘what if’s’ until I got over myself and started turning the scenarios on their head and saw love instead of fear.

What if I tuned into the dog’s happiness as soon as I met him/her? What if I used my knowledge of their dislikes to arrange our lives to avoid them? What if our intuition synched so that we naturally picked up on each other’s needs? What if the unconditional love between our both species had no limit? What if the dog became part of the staff at the schools that we worked in and had his/her own fan club? My natural positivity trait began to chase away this alien negative frame of mind that had invaded my life. How would I know what life would be like with a guide dog if I was not going to try?

Three and a half years on, it is easy to look back and laugh at the imagined fear that nearly kept us apart. This face that lights up the life of many may have rested upon another sofa if I had not opened my mind beyond the sticky pit of fear. His strands of hair that lay across the house may have had to be vacuumed up by another hoover and his muddy paw prints would have to be mopped up into another bucket. Most devastating however may have been that his big squishy velvety nose may have been kissed by another pair of lips.

Facing you fears and doing it anyway will always bring about the unexpected and for me, it was magical. This mischief maker was worth the gamble. Turning fear into love may not be that hard after all.

A Personalised Hello

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Connect, Happiness, Inspire, Kindness, Loneliness, Love, Positive mental health, Positivity, Support

Hello to the child that nobody sees. As the world zooms by when you feel all alone, we will be here waiting for you to want company. We can’t wait to hear what makes you happy in life which we will listen to for hours and enjoy it all. Tell us your problems and we will find a way together to destroy the power that they have over you and find the solution that you need. We see what an utter piece of perfection you really are.

Hello to the teenager that feels so many emotions. When you feel different from your friends that you were once so close with, we will notice your sameness in your ever-changing world. As you talk about your hopes and dreams that everyone else wants to quash, we will help you make the plans that you need to turn them into a reality. We will be your sounding board to things that need to be said. We are so excited to see you transform into the contented adult that you will become.

Hello to the first-time mother that has just entered a whole new world. When you feel overwhelmed with change, we are here to help you find the normality in this. When everyone is cooing over you baby and forgetting you, we will pay attention to you as a person as well as you as a mother. When you feel like you could cry endless tears, we will assure you that our waterproof shoulders are always waiting for you. As you grow with your baby, we will all have happy hearts.

Hello to the middle-aged man who feels lost in life. When things are not what they used to be, we will be there to watch you find a new way of life. We will be there to admire the new you that you were once fearful of creating. When you are looking for a simpler life in a complex world, we will help you feng shui the things that drain you in life. When you realize that the best part of your life is yet to come, we will be there to capture the memories.

Hello to the older lady who spends most of her time in her own company. When family and friends move away and get caught up in their own lives, we really want to hear about your life. Your experiences in life should be shared with us to help us appreciate the things that we sometimes forget. If you feel forgotten, we will remind you of your worth. We will spend time with you celebrating everything that you have created and are yet to create.

When people feel lonely in a world with over 7 billion people, we need to act.

When people feel like misfits in a world full of conformists, we need to include.

When people feel fearful of change, we need to preserve.

The stories behind the people that we meet we may never truly know, but we should always be there to listen if they ever want to be told. Loneliness can not thrive in an environment full of positive connections so how do we create more? The power in the simple word of hello should never be underestimated. It can threaten the loneliness that may have taken hold in a person’s life. When we all begin to be there for one another, our own lives will take on a whole new meaning. Taking time to say a personal hello may mean more than you will ever know.